The term for it is called Premature Ejaculation (PE) and is estimated to affect 30-70% of American males. PE is believed to be a psychological problem that stems from the conditioning of males to reach climax in a short time because of fear of discovery when masturbating as teenagers or during early sexual experiences. It’s a pattern that’s difficult to change, but not impossible. However, there are so many variables to consider, such as his upbringing, his views about sex, whether or not you experience an orgasmia (a severe delayed orgasm), etc. There are also different kinds of PE and each case is unique. Now having said all that, I have to wonder what you mean by saying he finishes “too soon.” Knowing exactly how soon will get you solutions to the problem. Does he come 2 minutes into intercourse or is it more like 20 minutes? Or, is it just that it takes you so long to cum that no matter how long he lasts, it isn’t long enough? Whichever it is, you’re not happy so there’s a problem. The first thing you have to do is let him know how you feel. Not that you want to put anymore pressure on him, but if he thinks you’re perfectly happy with the sex, then nothing will change. It could be that he simply needs to recognize that you need it longer. In my experience, sometimes all you have to do during is sex is demand that the guy not cum, and miraculously, he doesn’t. But in case your guy can’t turn it on and off like that, let’s explore some options here. The first step for treatment of premature ejaculation is to relieve any underlying performance pressure on the male, so that means counseling with BOTH partners.

Or, just try the methods they’ll give you such as the stop-start or squeeze-pause technique popularized by Masters and Johnson. This is exactly the kind of education you’ll find in an adult DVD such as You Can Last Longer . Watch it and you’ll learn how to slowly start stimulating him, but then stop as soon as he senses a feeling of excessive excitement that could lead to cumming. Then, squeeze his dick firmly just behind the glands, pressing mainly under the penis. This should be uncomfortable, but not painful. Begin stroking him again once he feels like he won’t cum anymore. Repeat this process 10 times and practice it. Another possibility is a desensitizing cream for his cock. Lidocaine or any topical analgesic will work to desensitize his dick and prolong ejaculation. Another thing to consider is having him masturbate 1-2 hours before sex. This usually only works with younger guys, though. Anti-depressant drugs also have an effect on delaying ability to climax, but I wouldn’t go that route just yet. Talk to your man first, tell him how you feel, and see if you can’t work it out before taking the problem outside the bedroom.

Other recommended videos are Sexual Healing and Sexual Satisfaction (Alexander Institute). These will teach you relaxing techniques and how to work better with your partner. It could also help with the anxiety your man feels about performing. The Tantric Guide to Better Sex (Sinclair Intimacy) is all about prolonging the orgasm, so check that out, too.

Hope this helps! Betty

It’s interesting that your wife has fantasies about that since it’s traditionally a gay male thing done in the shadows of sex clubs. While you should acknowledge your wife’s fantasy, I wouldn’t recommend indulging it. This one is probably better left in her head. However, if the two of you do wind up trolling the clubs of New York in search of a darkened room full of plugged up holes, be sure to have lots of condoms on you. In the meantime, check out Mr. Horse Cock #2: Down in the Hole for 6 scenes of interracial glory hole experiences. Old Pueblo brings back Mr. Horse Cock, this time preying on unsuspecting white girls from filthy bathroom stalls to roadside rest stops.

Hope this helps! Betty

First things first. When it comes to anal sex, it’s all about playing it safe. You’re not likely to get an infection unless a.)He has an infection and passes it to you, or b.)He goes back and forth from your pussy to your ass without washing his dick first. You basically need to be extremely hygienic, if you’re going to butt bang. I don’t have to tell you to wash up first, but ideally you should give yourself a warm water enema beforehand. This will eliminate all the unwanted nasties that might be lurking up there, and lower your risk for any kind of infection. Make sure he uses a condom and make sure you use a water soluble lube.

Now for the next part, my question to you is, if it makes you cum harder than anything else, and you like it more in your ass than in your pussy&why are you complaining? It sounds to me like your bum is just as wet and ready as your other opening! And finally, the reason he cums fast when he bangs you in the rear is because your anus is so tight, it’s a sensation the penis hardly ever gets to experience. Imagine a vacuum on his dick and that will give you an idea of the feeling. Add warm and soft to that and you have the makings of two-pump Charlie. The only cure for this is to keep on doing it. Practice makes perfect.

For visual assistance, I recommend Tristan Taormino’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women #2 (Evil Angel). This anal sex workshop features anal porn star veterans like Ava Vincent, Jewel De’Nyle, and Bridgette Kerkove. When it comes to anal, nobody knows more than Taormino, well except Nina Hartley, perhaps. Her Guide to Anal Sex (Adam & Eve) has become as classic as Moby Dick, if you’ll pardon the pun. The bottom line is that anal is totally safe, as long as you know all the facts. And, these girls are the best to teach them to you.

Hope this helps! Betty

I can’t give you her home number or tell you where she hangs out, but I can tell you to go to http://www.jillkelly.com. You’ll find all the contact information you need there. However, if you’re looking to see Jill in all her hot, sticky, naked glory, you can always rent one of her hundreds of DVDs like D.P. Sluts #2 from Sin City. Here, Jill gets double stuffed alongside Jamie Sweet, Candy Cox and Jessica Dee. Or, go for a more old-school approach with Best Tits on the Planet (Vivid) starring Jill and Christy Canyon, Asia Carrera and Dyanna Lauren. The title says it all. From Totally Fucked up Orgies (VCA) to Jill’s Nasty Little Dolls (Baby Doll Pictures) to Hot Bods & Tail Pipe #10 (Celestial Productions), Jill Kelly is an endless fuck machine that will be enjoyed by generations to cum.

Hope this helps! Betty

There are a slew of products on the market that promise penis enlargement. Everything from ground rhino horn to tiger’s dick has been used throughout the centuries. Many men are concerned with their penis size. Because of this, there are countless pages on the Internet and elsewhere that advertise various ways of enlarging a man’s penis. These methods include surgery, drugs, supplements, pumps, and exercises. It’s difficult to find solid scientific data concerning the validity of these claims, and the possible side-effects. This is partly because much of the science is so new that long term studies have not yet produced clear results. Another reason is that many of the scientists who are publishing results are hired by the companies that are selling these products. Of course, these results may well be biased.

Perhaps the most authoritative source on the subject is the Food and Drug Administration. The FDA hasn’t approved any method for the penis enlargement. Some web sites try and get around this fact by advertising their products as “FDA Approved” when in fact they are only FDA approved for other applications. For example, there are pumps on the market that are FDA approved for the treatment of impotence. The companies selling them also market the pumps as capable of enlarging one’s penis. Web sites use tricky wording such as “We offer an FDA approved product to assist with impotence and reportedly gain up to 3 inches or more!” to get around the fact that their products aren’t FDA approved for penis enlargement. Web sites offering pills and creams tend to not address the FDA approval issue, which should be evidence enough that they are in no way FDA approved.

Exercises that are supposed to naturally enlarge the penis, sometimes know as “jelqing,” (yes, this is the correct spelling) also aren’t approved. Companies that offer training programs in these exercises often liken penis exercise to bodybuilding. They claim that since exercise can increase muscle size, why shouldn’t it increase penis size? This comparison isn’t valid, however, because the penis isn’t a muscle. However, this method holds more promise than either pills or pumps. It’s possible that the exercise techniques increase the capacity of the corpora cavernosa, which would allow more blood to be held in the penis, and can possibly result in a stronger, harder erection. Although the penis itself wouldn’t really have increased in size, a stronger erection might accomplish the same goals. Again, these results have not been proven, but there’s some evidence, based on testimonials, that this method might work. Another important question is the permanence of the results. It’s possible that the exercises simply cause a temporary increase in the amount of blood in the penis during the exercises, which customers misinterpret as a permanently larger penis.

The only method of penis enlargement that’s widely considered effective in the medical community is surgery. However, penis enlargement surgery mostly just adds length and girth to the flaccid penis, which is, of course, not very useful. The corresponding increase in size to the penis while erect is neither dramatic nor existent, depending on whom you ask. In addition, the possible side effects are serious enough make surgery too risky for any male except those with an exceptionally small penis. Many doctors who offer this service won’t perform the surgery unless a man’s penis is so small that it can be considered a medical condition. This is because it’s widely accepted that the dangers are too great to warrant the possible beneficial effects for most patients. Harmful side-effects of surgery include disfigurement of the penis and loss of ability to achieve erection. This is the case for the type of surgery that involves cutting the connective tissue that anchors the penis to the pubic bone. Another type of surgery injects fat into the penis. While this is much simpler and safer, the results are generally temporary, since the fat is gradually reabsorbed by the body.

The possible negative effects of enlargement options are less clear. There are reports of exercises that were done improperly, resulting in injuries to the penis. Pumps have also been reported to cause injuries when used incorrectly. Natural pills and creams haven’t been known to cause serious damage, but it’s too soon too say for sure that they are safe. Also, some of the ingredients in these products have been known to increase blood pressure. Penis enlargement is a budding industry, so it’s difficult to determine the actual results and possible side-effects at this point. For now, it’s probably wise to remain skeptical of claimed results, and wary of the possible unknown side effects.

Hope this helps! Betty

Excellent question. Although it may seem like the road to the porn palace is primrose-paved, the truth is quite the contrary. Most girls from my experience wash out in the first 4 months. It takes quite a bit of time and dedication to make it in this business. You see the Belladonnas, Aurora Snows, and Jill Kellys…those girls had to work hard to become big names in the porn world.

If you’re really serious about becoming a starlet, there are some things you should keep in mind. First, and this may seem obvious, but you HAVE to do guys. In a recent episode of Cornucopia, Jill Kelly came straight out and said that switching to girl-on-girl only will hurt Jenna Haze’s career. Men want to see women fucking men first and foremost. Next, you’ll also most likely have to fuck guys you don’t want to. It’s part of the job, honey. On the other hand, if you’ve got a special talent that makes you a standout in a sea of wannabes, that’s a definite plus.

Third, you’ve got to put your time in. Most girls who’ve made it in porn have literally 100s of films under their belt before they’re well known. Look at someone with longevity like Jenna Jameson, Kobe Tai or even old school gals like Christy Canyon and you won’t believe how many times they were fucked on camera.

Fourth, market yourself. You’ve simply GOT to have a web site these days, as well as representation. Excellent examples of this are the Vivid or Wicked girls, who are almost treated as legitimate models simply because they’ve got big studio names behind them. But those girls didn’t start out getting pampered, believe me. And finally, act like you love it even if you don’t. In my experience, the girls who get to the top&and stay there&are the ones who are sex incarnate. They’re exciting to watch because they appear to LOVE sex in any and all forms. And those are my words of wisdom for you, but they’re no guarantee that you’ll make it. Just put your name and image out there, do a good job, go the extra mile and make yourself stand out. If you can commit to all that and put up with all the other industry bullshit, you just might make it…..but even if you do, chances are you’ll fade out before too long. In the porn world, I’m afraid it’s all about new meat.

Hope this helps! Betty

Hmm, I’m sensing ambiguity in your question. You say you don’t want bondage, but then you say you want to see a woman yelling at a man. Since the subject of a woman wanting a man and a man not wanting her back wouldn’t really fly in an adult video, I’m going to suggest you check out Strap Attack (Evil Angel). In this special video, the girls turn the table on the boys and fuck them in the ass with strap-ons. It stars Tiffany Mynx, Arianna Jollee, and Courtney Cummz. There’s also Strap-on Chicks: Ass Czech (NorthStar Associates). Same deal here, only the chicks are Czech and a little tougher on the boys. Also from this studio is Strap-on Chicks: Who’s the Bitch Now? and Strap-on Chicks: Bella’s Bitches. I think you’ll be happy with these. There’s not real bondage or domination, but the women are definitely in charge!

Hope this helps! Betty