Dear Madison:

First off, great question. Big toys are a huge fetish. And, I applaud the fact that you’re willing to experiment to please your man. Two gold stars for you from Betty.

You didn’t mention what kind of toys, so I am assuming that you are speaking of giant dildos and vibrators used primarily on your vajayjay. I have given advice for using butt plugs in the past&my advice is to start out small (or regular sized) and work your way up. I would offer you the same advice for dildos and vibes. Once you work your way up, you will find that your body will be able to accommodate large (or larger) cocks and toys. Never force a toy if it feels too big or just not right. This could cause tearing in the vagina and/or anus. But most importantly, always make sure to use plenty of lube to help the toy glide naturally. Also, if you share a toy with another guy or girl, make sure you wash it off and/or use a condom over it so you don’t get a bladder or yeast infection or even worse, an STD.

If you would like to check out a few of our movies that feature big toys and see how the porn chicks do it, I would suggest you check out Digital Sin’s I Love Big Toys #8, but we carry many other movies in the series.

Also Devil’s Films has a flick called Big Toys No Boys #3 starring Katja Kassin, Haley Paige and Sandra Romaine. Insert sexy growl here!

And if you’re looking to pick up some big toys, I would highly recommend Tera Patrick’s Big One Dildo. This bad boy is 8 inches long and 2 inches thick. You can use it solo or with your man. It’s fun to have him fuck you in your pussy and have him insert this in your ass at the same time. Again, lube is essential here and lots of it. Slippery Stuff Lube is awesome. If you’d like a little Lexington Steele in you, check out the Lex Steele Vibrating Realistic Dildo. It’s 11 inches and highly realistic and feels great with the soft PleasureSkin it’s made of.

Thanks for the offer for the threesome. But if Dear Betty took all my fans up on invites for threesomes, I would have no time to write my column. Really.

Have fun and be safe!

Love, Betty

Dear John:

There are many reasons that a woman won’t give a man oral. Before I go into what they are, I am curious if you have asked her why she won’t. If you haven’t asked her you should&communication is the key for any good relationship and it’s always better than guessing. Then, you will know the exact reason and how to go about fixing it. Here are some of the top reasons women won’t give their man a little oral loving and possible solutions to these problems:

• She has no experience and is shy to show you just how inexperienced she is. If this is the case, you two should watch some educational porn together such as Access Instructional Media’s How to Give a World Class Blowjob or Adam & Eve’s Better Oral Techniques. You can even take a few points from a pornstar&watch Acid Rain’s Blow Me #3 and/or Vivid’s Best Blowjob on the Planet. Or, you can show her what you like&guide her and be very patient.
• A lot of women don’t like the taste of cum. Men will do all kinds of things to get us to believe theirs tastes like mint, Oreos or some other great tasting treat. Cum is an acquired taste, like avocados. Either you like it or you don’t. If she doesn’t, promise NOT to cum in her mouth. Ask her where it would be OK to cum instead (i.e. tits, ass, etc.).
• You’re not keeping yourself groomed and clean. If it’s a jungle down there and/or it smells, a woman would rather go to sleep than deal with that. Make sure you take a bath right before sex and that your unit and boys are trimmed or shaved.
• She might have a very bad gag reflex and sucking dick could make her feel sick. And, if you’re well endowed, this could make it worse. Tell her she doesn’t have to deep throat the whole thing. Tell her to take it slowly and easy, at least to start.
• She might have some trauma associated with oral sex. Maybe a guy laughed at her moves in the past and/or was very critical. If this is the case, be patient with her and tell her you would appreciate her trying to do the best she can. And, you will let her know what turns you on and/or what you don’t like in the nicest way possible.

And lastly, a few extra helpful hints:

• Another way to gain experience is solo practice. Get her a very realistic dildo and let her practice when she is alone&this should build her confidence up. As for buying a dildo, you want to pick up the 8 Inch Clear Jelly Dildo &it’s not as intimidating as some other dildos. Additionally, there’s the 6 inch dildo with suction cup. The suction cup will allow it to stick to a counter and the realistic balls will let her get experience before she plays with your boys.
• You also might want to try whipped cream, flavored lube and/or sensual oils. This can make oral exciting and very pleasurable. Good Head-Cherry Lube tastes good and there is a good chance it will lead to some good head for you. A lot of our customers enjoy the Karma Sutra Six 6 Scents Kit. And of course, you can pick up some whipped cream at the store on your way home. Experiment with all 3 and see what works best.

I hope this helps!

Love, Betty

Dear David:

I can tell you have a boot fetish. Nice. There are many movies that feature just one scene with boots. I’m going to recommend titles that have at least 3 scenes, if not the whole movie, featuring boots. From the title, you know right away there’s going to be boots (and more boots). Adam & Eve’s Puss ‘N Boots features more than a few boots mixed in with the sex scenes. And, high heeled ones too. Flick features Carmen Luvana, Gia Jordan and Hailey Page.

Next, check out Platinum X’s Fetish Ball. Every scene features boots&stiletto heel boots, calf high boots and high platform stiletto boots. Despite the name, the sex isn’t too kinky and is more like a good gonzo pounding.

Another movie you might enjoy is VCA’s Black Boots: Special Edition. You’ll really get turned on by the cover&it’s Juli Ashton wearing nothing but shiny Doc Marten boots.

And lastly, check out scene 3, 4 and 5 of Hustler’s Taboo: Maximum Perversions. They feature some nice lace-up boots worn by Michelle Maylene, Penny Flame and Tory Lane. And if bondage and unique fetish equipment are another kink of yours, you’ll really enjoy it.

Happy viewing!

Love,
Betty