I can help you with that. I’m going to suggest a few different combinations of foursomes and group orgy movies.

My first recommendation would be Platinum X’s Four On The Whore #2&you can see super sluts like Sandra Romaine, Katsuni and Taryn Thomas take on 4 cocks at a time. Yes, this is more of a gang bang but quite exciting.

Next, check out Sin City’s Orgy Addicts. This compilation stars a bevy of porn star babes including Alexis Amore, Jessica Drake, Aurora Snow, Mika Tan and Monica Sweetheart&this movie is hot.

Jules Jordan Video’s Out Numbered #4 directed by and starring Erik Everhard features too many girls for 2 to 3 guys&must be were they got the title from. This is a series, so check out volumes 1 through 3, as well.

For a film featuring orgies, 4-ways and 3-ways, check out Adam & Eve’s Group Sex #6 starring Gianna Lynn, Kimberly Kane, Joanna Angel, Nina Hartley and more.

And lastly, Evil Angel’s Fashionistas Safado: The Challenge and Friday Productions‘ Corrupted both culminate in a huge orgy scene. I think you’ll be impressed.

Happy viewing!

Love,

Some people have been with 100 people and never had the Big O. It helps to know your own body&once you know what makes you orgasm, you can tell someone else what you need. Start with your hands and use some lube. Experiment and find out what makes you tick. You might find out right away. Or, it might take you awhile to hit your stride.

Then, I would suggest something simple like a toy to hit your G-Spot like the G-Spot Vibrator Kit or a G-Spot Probe. With a little lube and one of these toys, you will definitely be able to get yourself there. Then, when it comes time for sex, you will know how to replicate it. You can always make using toys a two-person event, as well.

Additionally, you can try touching more than one body part at a time&like playing with your pussy and tits at the same time. Of course, this is a two-handed adventure.

And, some people swear by Keigel exercises (these help build up your vaginal muscles) or Benwa Balls for increasing the intensity of your orgasms.
Hope this helps!

Love, Betty

A lot of guys have issues with condoms. So, you’re not alone. We live in a world where people aren’t always truthful about what diseases they have, so you are definitely acting responsibly to use condoms. That being said, you still need to find an answer to your problem of staying hard while using a condom. I can suggest a few things.

The first thing is the condom itself. Are you buying the right size? If you’re a big guy, you can’t squeeze into a small condom&you’ll need to go for the Magnum size. And most importantly, are you putting the condom on correctly? If you are struggling with it, it could mean you are putting it on upside down. Take your time and leave some room at the top (if it doesn’t have a reservoir tip) to catch your cum.

Also, they make very thin condoms. Some of the guys I have been with have even claimed it’s the closest thing to not even wearing one. On our site these condoms are called sensitive, because they are. Try the Contempo Bareback or the Avanti Super Thin.

A few other tricks you can try would be having your girl go down on you first and then have her put the condom on for you&this can be quite sensual and take your mind off of things. Or, you can buy condoms with texture (those little nubby things) and turn them inside out. Then, you will get extra stimulation on your penis and be even more pleasured.

Use one or all of these ideas and I’m sure condoms will be less of an issue.

Love,
Betty

I hate to tell you but most men do find heels to be very sexy. Porn is made with men in mind. And if they didn’t find it sexy, it wouldn’t be in movies.

What I can see is that you have a foot fetish, my friend. And, we have lots of movies that will definitely make you happy. Kick Ass Pictures‘ Barefoot Confidential #45 is a foot movie that features only bare feet&no sky high heels here. And did I mention their toes are painted?! And if you like that check out other flicks in the series that we have for rent.

Zero Tolerance’s Victory Over De Feet is another bare foot romp that features hotties with high arches being foot worshipped and toe fucked. Big Top’s Heels ‘N Hose XXX features some incredible leg and foot play. And lastly, pop Smash Pictures‘ Stocking Secrets in your DVD player. These babes definitely know how to rock some fishnets and take them off. For more movies, check out the Foot genre on the main home page.

Have fun!

Love, Betty

Yes, we have movies with women being fucked by machines. This usually involved a device called a Sybian, which take a woman’s orgasm to a whole new level without the help of a man. You can get one of your very own on our site for your personal use. They run about $1,300 and sell out fast. But, you asked for movies.

First, you will want to check out TightFit’s Sex & The Sybian features nine hot porn stars including Lexi Bardot, Gianna, Aaliyah Jolie and Lexi Love going for a different kind of ride. This gives the word cowgirl a whole new meaning.

Seymour Butts’ Orgasamatic features girls taking on the Sybian and winning with some of the most amazing orgasms (including squirting) caught on film. Watch girl after girl climb up and take on the bad boy.

Digital Sin’s I Love Big Toys is a girls-only flick that has 3 Sybian scenes along with some monster glass dildos. Victoria Sweet and Tory Lane show us how it’s done.

And lastly, if you like Anime/Hentai, check out Black Widow’s The Princess Has Come of Age. The Princess fucks a robot. How’s that for a machine?! She also takes on a rubber woman doll and a plant!

Enjoy!

Love,
Betty

Great question! Yes, I have to agree with you that porn can’t replace intimacy. When I have someone special in my life, I like to watch porn with them&it’s a great adventure, a total turn-on and enhances our level of intimacy. In the times that I’ve been alone, I still enjoy watching it. My imagination goes crazy and I feel like some of my fave porn stars are there watching me masturbate (or when I’m masturbating I imagine having sex with them). So in a way, I feel like I am having sex with them. When you don’t have someone to hold you or give you the intimacy you need, your imagination can be your best friend. Honestly.

So…I would suggest to you a few things.

• First get some movies with your favorite porn starlets in them and let your imagination go wild. I really dig Gianna, Belladonna, Jerry and Erik Everhard. These are my faves and might not be yours. I would suggest you check out stunning blonde Casey Parker in Shane’s World’s The Girl Next Door and Lost in Puerto Rico, super porn vixen Sophia Rossi in Club Jenna’s Sophia’s Revenge and Provocateur and/or Latin hottie Jasmine Bryne in Hustler’s Kill Jill #2 and Wicked’s Thigh Spy. But, peruse our site and find the girls that turn you on. We even have a Top 10 of the most popular girls.
• Next pick up a masturbator (a sex toy for guys) that features the ass, pussy and/or tits of one of your fave girls&then go to town and experiment sexually with it. I would suggest Gina Lynn’s Super-Tight Pussy Masturbator, Brianna Bank’s Vibrating Pussy and Anus or Jessica Drake’s Futurotic Pocket Pal.
• Maybe hit a strip club. A lap dance is a form of intimacy. Maybe not exactly what you are looking for, but it could do the trick.
• And lastly, get back out there and start looking a new girl. It will build your confidence and you might find someone who will give you the intimacy that you crave.

Hope this helps!Love, Betty

Most of the softcore movies don’t have a plot. Feature movies (ones with plots) are generally hardcore&some of them have such intricate plots that you forget you’re watching a porn. Digital Playground’s Pirates, which is now available on our site in HD-DVD, is like this. It’s a beautiful movie set on the high seas/tropical locales&plus, the sex is rather low key (no anal, group sex, etc.). You might also want to check out Wicked’s Curse Eternal and Mobsters &both are period pieces with great plots that are available in HD-DVD as well as the basic DVD format. Click on the Features genre to find more of these types of movies

If you still can’t get your wife interested in these movies (but I really do think she will enjoy them), I can suggest a few softcore movies. Vivid’s L.A. Swimstyles is all about girls in bikinis (OK, you might have guessed this from the title without me telling you). Playboy’s Centerfold Video: Jenny McCarthy, The Ultimate Pamela Anderson and The Best of Anna Nicole Smith feature women you both are probably familiar with and might find hot&we have 48 other Playboy movies that are softcore as well. And lastly, many of our members enjoy the Girls Gone Wild series&you might want to view Girls Gone Wild College Coeds #2 or Girls Gone Wild Mardi Gras 2K4. For more softcore movies, click on the Softcore genre link.

Happy viewing!

Love,
Betty

Yes, dildos can vibrate. Dildos are made one of two ways. You have the basic dildo that can be inserted into the vagina or ass. Then, you have vibrating dildos that can be used on the outside to stimulate the clit and/or external labia as a vibrator, or used for penetration. In fact, you can turn the vibe on while using it for penetration&this will give you or your girl quite a turn on. I personally like vibrating dildos the best because they are like 2 toys in one.

Are you thinking about buying one for you or your girl? We’ve got some really great ones! We’ve got ones that are hard, smooth, realistic and jelly-dong like. The Lex Steele Vibrating Realistic Dildo is very popular&it’s an 11inch replica of Lex Steele’s member and it’s made with PleasureSkin which is not only realistic, but feels really good. If you’re feeling crafty, you can make your own. Yes, you read right. The Make Your Own Dildo Kit can be molded from your penis and takes realistic to a new level. And, she’ll always have you with her when you’re away. And for a new level of kink, try the Jelly Vibrating Double Dildo. You’ll be amazed at all the things you can do with it.

Hope is answers your question.

Love, Betty

We’re glad you’re a WantedList member&great choice!

The Classics&another excellent choice! We have over 500 movies for you to choose from&just click on the Classics genre. But, I can definitely suggest a few. My all-time favorite (and the first porn I ever saw) is VCX’s Debbie Does Dallas. Bambi Woods and her hottie cheerleader friends will do anything (and I do mean anything) to go on a cheerleading fieldtrip. If you haven’t seen this one, it’s a definite must-see. VCX’s Charlie is another flick with a great plot, only this time it’s a love story. Historic Erotica also has some great movies&these movies are true classics. Some are even in black and white and date back to the 40s. The plots can be a bit trite and/or cheesy but they are amazing. Check out Lube Job, What You See Is What You Get, Love on a Saturday and The Slutty Professor. And lastly, nothing says classic like a John Holmes DVD&check out Gen XXX’s John Holmes: The Original Boogie Knight, Taboo Entertainment’s John Holmes: The King of X and Hollywood Video’s Boogie Down With John Holmes Volume 3.

Once you get your wife all hot and bothered with old school porn, you might try some current flicks. Feature movies have great plots, wonderful cinemagraphic quality and even some acting (yes, porn stars can act). Vivid Director Paul Thomas, the king of feature films, did an updated version of Debbie Does Dallas called Debbie Does Dallas…Again. It’s true to the original and stars some of the hottest girls in porn including Hillary Scott, Monique Alexander and Lacey Heart. Vivid’s Pipe Dreams is another one you should rent. Adam & Eve’s Lady Scarface stars Carmen Luvana and has more twists and turns than a rollercoaster. Click on the Features link for even more movies.

I hope this helps!

Love,
Betty

You’ve taken the phrase taking one for the team to a whole new level. I have to give you kudos for catering to your wife’s desires. But seriously…is this sucking another man’s cock and being fucked in the ass with a strap on something you really want to do? Really think about this one. Maybe, it’s a secret desire you’ve locked away. If that’s the case, I’m here to help.

As for getting in the mood to suck another man’s cock, I would suggest some of our bi-sexual movies. Watch Legend’s Naughty Bi Nature #6, Adam & Eve’s Fine Bi Me Too! and/or All Worlds‘ Read Bi All. These movies will give you a very clear picture of what this adventure will be like.

And for a few strap on flicks, check out Legend’s Strap On Maids and Smash Pictures‘ Strap On My Man &these 2 are definitely a wild ride. And if you’re looking for an education in Strap On 101, check out Shane’s World’s Guide to Strap On Sex &it’s got hot porn chicks like Katja Kassin and Sandra Romain and is presented with a sense of humor (yes, you might even find yourself laughing).

A word of caution about butt plugs…start out small. I would suggest a starter butt plug such as the Anal Explorer &it’s small, made of soft latex and vibrates. Then, graduate to a bigger butt plug such as the Enspiral Swirl Top Butt Plug before you take on the whole enchilada of a strap on. For a strap on, I would suggest the Heart Strap On Harness by Sport Sheets &it included the silicone dong and is cute (with a heart on it) so you might be a little less intimidated when she goes to put it on.

Good luck! And, remember to have fun.

Love, Betty

You think you’re a freak right? I hate to break it to you, but this behavior is totally normal. Yep. In fact, some 21-28 year males masturbate up to 10 times a day. The amount you personally masturbate can depend on how often you’re having sex and of course, your sexual drive. With masturbating there are no rules&it’s about how much you like to go at it. So, get over the guilt and be glad you’re a sexual being.

Now, if you want to make your experience a little more pleasurable, you might want to pick up a few toys. Toys are no longer just for women. They can give you a helping hand and/or can even extend your orgasms. Blowjob simulators are great for this. You might want to pick up Senso Lips &it makes you feel like there’s a girl down there (just don’t forget the lube). Masturbators also make a great addition to the fun. A lot of guys like the Jill Kelly Futurotic Lips &it’s very stretchy, has a small opening for a tight fit and it vibrates. You will find it more than gets the job done.

Hope this helps!

Love,
Betty

You are talking about The Devil in Miss Jones #3, which we have on DVD. This movie is a classic and a must own. It also stars old school hotties Vanessa Del Rio, Erica Boyer and Amber Lynn. Ron Jeremy and Tom Byron also make appearances. And since you are a fan of Paul Thomas, you should check out The New Devil in Miss Jones from Vivid starring Jenna Jameson. Thomas directed the film made 25 years after the original Devil in Miss Jones.

Happy viewing!

Love, Betty

Wow, she burnt her egg vibe out. Nice. You might want to get her more than one toy, in that case.

The Beyond 2000 HS3 Ribbed Bullet in red is very popular. This high tech toy throbs, pulsates and has multiple speeds&it’s the Cadillac of eggs. Additionally, you might want to pick her up the Mega Blaster &the name says it all. It also comes with a jelly cock ring, so you can join in the fun, too. Oh, and this egg is discrete, so your girl can take it on the road with her (this is something that can definitely make your commute to work more enjoyable).

Now, if you want to take things to a new level for her…you should get her a rabbit. The Decadent Indulgence 2 has over 300 function and glows in the dark&this toy is amazing! Another hot item would be the Hitachi Wand. Although it’s been around for over 30 years, it’s still one of the ultimate toys to own. And, many porn stars swear by it, along with some of the characters from Sex in the City. With over 5000-6000 vibrations per minute and extra attachments, your girl will be in heaven!

I hope this helps!

Love,
Betty

How nice of you to help your man out with his de-hairing needs. Most male (and female) porn stars head to straight to a licensed cosmetologist (the ladies who work out of a salon or your nail place). Waxing lasts longer than any other type of hair removal&it can last anywhere from 2 to 7 weeks. In time, you will see that the hair will become thinner/finer, lighter in color and softer. And, it’s safer if you have a licensed professional to take care of your needs, rather than trying it at home (unless you like red bumps, uneven amounts of hair, ingrown hairs and/or bleeding). Yes, it might be expensive but it’s definitely the way to go.

As for Nair, I personally would heed the warning on the label. Also, if you use Nair, your man’s hair will generally grow back in a rough stubble. If you really want to take care of things at home, I would suggest the Dare to Be Bare Trim Set.

Hope this helps!

Love, Betty

WOW. You are asking for a lot there. Have you talked to your wife and see if she’s cool with all this type of stuff? That would be a good place to start.

If she’s OK with your dressing in lingerie and her being large and in charge, I would suggest you both view some domination DVDs. Start with Adam & Eve’s Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sensual Domination #1 and Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sensual Domination #2 &this should help you both understand how domination works. After you get the idea, I would suggest viewing some dominatrix movies&this will take you to another level. Check out some bondage like flicks like Voyeur Media’s Fetish Fucks, Combat Zone’s Naughty Girls at Play and Gothic’s Rubber Manor . We have a slew on these type of movies if you look under genres and pick BDSM.

As for her being with other men, I think you should explore the domination element and setting limits first. When you are ready to bring another man in, discuss what will happen and what you’re both OK and not OK with. Really decide if it’s something youd both want.

If you are looking for some hot lingerie for you to wear, we’ve got that too. Take a look in our toy section and see what strikes your fancy. I would suggest a black crotchless g-string, a latex bra and panty and garter hose.

Good Luck!

Love,
Betty

If you’re in a master/slave relationship, you can say no. I’m sure you have safe words and/or limits that are set. If not, it’s something you might want to think about. I think you need to decide if it’s something you really want to do. Can you visualize yourself with another woman? If so, I can help you.

I would suggest you rent some girl-on-girl action DVDs&if it gets you hot, you might be interested in seeing what it’s like to be with another woman. Zero Tolerance’s Girlvana #3 has a cavalcade of hot porn starlettes getting it on including Audrey Bittoni, Puma Swede, Nikki Benz and Tory Lane. Another one to watch would be Digital Sin’s Leztravaganza #2 with Jenna Haze, Courtney Cummz, Sativa Rose and Rozy Deville. Adam & Eve’s Carmen & Ava is a beautiful film with beautiful women&I think you’ll like it. For more movies, look under the All Girl genre on our site.

And for an educational flick, check out Adam & Eve’s Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sex for the Bi-Curious Woman &this will give you an insight to what it’s really like when it’s not staged and just you and another woman. Nina also has movies about 3-ways which might be good for you to watch, including Nina Hartley’s Guide to Threesomes: Two Girls & A Guy.

Have Fun!

Love, Betty

What a birthday gift! Most women just want diamonds, but go figure.

Sometimes when things change too much (like with a move), life can be stressful&it can be hard to enjoy the things that we used to in the past. Or maybe you two have been together a long time and things have gone stale. Whatever the case may be, I would suggest you mix things up a bit. Make your sexual adventures real adventures. Just adding a few new things can make a world of difference:

• Toys. Yes, toys can bring sex to a new level. Vibrators are a huge turn on for women. And if your girl is way turned on, you’ll be totally into it&give her an orgasm that will make her scream and you’ll see. Try Stormy’s Strobing Massager Vibrator. Maybe you’d like to have some fun alone&the Cyber Snatch can help you with that. It is made of a jelly-like substance and it vibrates. Feel free to imagine you’re having sex with your fave porn star.
• You can try bringing another woman into the bedroom, if she’s cool with that. Check out the tips I given men and women on 3-ways in the Dear Betty archive.
• Watch porn. How can you not be in the mood after seeing hot women get it on?! Check out Adam & Eve’s Eden &go on a mini tropical vacation with Carmen Luvana , Ava Rose and their friends. If your girl likes a storyline, put Wicked’s Black Widow in your queue. And for a few hot girls having a good time, watch Red Light District’s Fuck It Like It’s Hot.
• Buy your girl some lingerie&check out our selection in the toy section of our site. Seeing her in a babydoll with a g-string will remind you why you found her hot.

If none of these things work, try talking and/or going to get some counseling together. But, I have a feeling once you relax and expand your sexual horizons together, you’ll be just fine.

I hope this helps!Love,
Betty

Many people prefer old school porn. You didn’t mention any specific porn star from the 90s so I’ll offer you a few suggestions that I think you might like.

Jenna Jameson is still as hot today as she was in the 90s. Actually, maybe hotter. If you like old school Jenna, catch her in Vivid’s Best Tits On The Planet along with Christy Canyon and Wicked’s Paradise and Lip Service. Her older movies are mainly softcore&if you like this genre put Peach DVDs Jenna Jameson: Untamed and Jenna Jameson: Revealed in your WantedList queue.

Girl next door Stacy Valentine is a blonde vixen who knows how to have fun. We have over 100 of her films. Check her out in Ninn Worx’s Sapphic Liaisons,Wicked’s Allure, Vivid’s The Blonde Eating The Blonde,VCA’s Super Slut Challenge: Stacy Valentine vs Jill Kelly and My Horny Valentine.

Former Penthouse Pet of the Year Sunset Thomas is still making movies. I suggest VCA’s Sunset Rides Again, Misty Beethoven, The Musical and New Wave Hookers #5.

She might be a raven-haired beauty, but Asia Carrera is also one of the smartest girls in porn&she’s a member of the genius group, MENSA. Rent VCA’s Deep Inside Asia Carrera and Asia Carrera 4 on 1, along with Wicked’s Jenna’s Star Power and Vivid’s Asian Liaison.

Tiffany Mynx (AKA Buttwoman) has been in the industry since 1992 and has made over 350 films. Still starring in movie, she was in Jules Jordan Video’s Tiffany Mynx vs Belladonna. For her older movies, I would suggest VCA’s My Face Or Yours and Return of The Cheerleader Nurses, along Evil Angel’s Buttman’s Award Winning Orgies and Elegant Angel’s Cumback Pussy #4.

With over 300 movies under her garter belt, Stephanie Swift is a legendary porn star. You should watch Vivid’s Ho Lotta Sex Going On, Adam & Eve’s The Hottest Pink and Wicked’s Eros, Wicked Covergirls and Hook-Ups #1.

Happy viewing!

Love, Betty

Dear Betty gets lots of squirting questions. And yes, I get the fascination.

To answer your question, squirting mainly occurs when the G-Spot is stimulated. Squirting through stimulating the clit is rarer. So, it looks like you’ve been able to do the near impossible. If only Dear Betty could give out awards…

If you’d like to hone your craft even more, I would suggest you check out squirt masters, like Tiana Lynn, Jada Fire, Flower Tucci, Cytherea and Missy Monroe. Check out Red Light’s Sprung A Leak #3, Smash Pictures‘ What’s Up Squirt #2, Babydoll Pictures‘ My Squirteenth Birthday and Elegant Angel’s Cum Rain Cum Shine.

Good Luck.,
Betty

I couldn’t find any movies with pussy pumps in them on our site. I think the reason would be because female porn stars genitals (clits and labias) swell up pretty big on their own. With the amount of sex these girls have, they should.

If you guys want to buy a pussy pump, you should just go for it. They’re not expensive and are worth having around, if it gets your wife off. For under $50, the Beyond 2000 Pussy Please-Her is the Cadillac of pumps&it provides excellent suction and hands-free fun. For under $25, Pussyman has you covered with his signature Pussyman Pussy Pump. This bad boy provides crazy suction and has gotten excellent reviews from our other members.

Have Fun!

Love, Betty

What a birthday gift! Most women just want diamonds, but go figure.

Personally, I have never heard of anyone working out at the gym 6 to 8 hours a day. Not even Arnold Schwarzenegger. This along with the fact that she has frequent headaches and never wants to give it up leads me to believe she’s not interested. I think you need to ask yourself some really important questions:

• How was the sex before her birthday and the very large Black man? Were you pushing all her buttons and thrilling her sexually? Be honest. If not, maybe you need to go back to school, sex education school that is. Rent a few educational DVDs from us. I would suggest Vivid’s Expert Guide to Oral Sex: Cunnilingus. Expert Tristan Tormino and her girls show you how to get a woman off. Well, orally. Next, I would suggest you take your wife away with Access Instructional Media’s Hottest Sex Weekend DVD. Follow their instructions, and you could give her the weekend of her life.
• If you have mad bedroom skills, you might try changing things up a bit. Things can get stale and this can lead to boredom and/or non-interest. Pick up a few toys and some movies you’d both enjoy. Club Jenna’s Simena is a big budget feature flick that showcases some of today’s hottest porn stars including Nadia and Chloe Dior. Another movie you might want to catch would be Adam & Eve’s American Heroes starring Carmen Luvana. For other feature movies (these ones have plots and the chicks dig them), look under the Feature genre on our site. As for toys, couples kits would be a great adventure you two could share. I would suggest 52 Weeks Of Naughty Nights. This should spice things up in the bedroom for awhile and potentially bring you closer. Using toys together can bring your bedroom fun to an all new level. Pick up Nikki Tyler’s Pleasure Vibe. With 10 speeds and 5 functions, this rabbit will definitely get her off. Rabbits are right up there with diamonds for women.
• And lastly, I would suggest you have a heart to heart talk with her. Ask her what’s going on and set aside some time so you two can really talk. If you two are still having trouble communicating, you might want to try couples counseling and/or a sex therapist.

I hope this helps!Love,
Betty

How nice of you to help your man out with his de-hairing needs. Most male (and female) porn stars head to straight to a licensed cosmetologist (the ladies who work out of a salon or your nail place). Waxing lasts longer than any other type of hair removal&it can last anywhere from 2 to 7 weeks. In time, you will see that the hair will become thinner/finer, lighter in color and softer. And, it’s safer if you have a licensed professional to take care of your needs, rather than trying it at home (unless you like red bumps, uneven amounts of hair, ingrown hairs and/or bleeding). Yes, it might be expensive but it’s definitely the way to go.

As for Nair, I personally would heed the warning on the label. Also, if you use Nair, your man’s hair will generally grow back in a rough stubble. If you really want to take care of things at home, I would suggest the Dare to Be Bare Trim Set.

Hope this helps!

Love, Betty

WOW. You are asking for a lot there. Have you talked to your wife and see if she’s cool with all this type of stuff? That would be a good place to start.

If she’s OK with your dressing in lingerie and her being large and in charge, I would suggest you both view some domination DVDs. Start with Adam & Eve’s Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sensual Domination #1 and Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sensual Domination #2 &this should help you both understand how domination works. After you get the idea, I would suggest viewing some dominatrix movies&this will take you to another level. Check out some bondage like flicks like Voyeur Media’s Fetish Fucks, Combat Zone’s Naughty Girls at Play and Gothic’s Rubber Manor . We have a slew on these type of movies if you look under genres and pick BDSM.

As for her being with other men, I think you should explore the domination element and setting limits first. When you are ready to bring another man in, discuss what will happen and what you’re both OK and not OK with. Really decide if it’s something youd both want.

If you are looking for some hot lingerie for you to wear, we’ve got that too. Take a look in our toy section and see what strikes your fancy. I would suggest a black crotchless g-string, a latex bra and panty and garter hose.

Good Luck!

Love,
Betty

If you’re in a master/slave relationship, you can say no. I’m sure you have safe words and/or limits that are set. If not, it’s something you might want to think about. I think you need to decide if it’s something you really want to do. Can you visualize yourself with another woman? If so, I can help you.

I would suggest you rent some girl-on-girl action DVDs&if it gets you hot, you might be interested in seeing what it’s like to be with another woman. Zero Tolerance’s Girlvana #3 has a cavalcade of hot porn starlettes getting it on including Audrey Bittoni, Puma Swede, Nikki Benz and Tory Lane. Another one to watch would be Digital Sin’s Leztravaganza #2 with Jenna Haze, Courtney Cummz, Sativa Rose and Rozy Deville. Adam & Eve’s Carmen & Ava is a beautiful film with beautiful women&I think you’ll like it. For more movies, look under the All Girl genre on our site.

And for an educational flick, check out Adam & Eve’s Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sex for the Bi-Curious Woman &this will give you an insight to what it’s really like when it’s not staged and just you and another woman. Nina also has movies about 3-ways which might be good for you to watch, including Nina Hartley’s Guide to Threesomes: Two Girls & A Guy.

Have Fun!

Love, Betty

What a birthday gift! Most women just want diamonds, but go figure.

Sometimes when things change too much (like with a move), life can be stressful&it can be hard to enjoy the things that we used to in the past. Or maybe you two have been together a long time and things have gone stale. Whatever the case may be, I would suggest you mix things up a bit. Make your sexual adventures real adventures. Just adding a few new things can make a world of difference:

• Toys. Yes, toys can bring sex to a new level. Vibrators are a huge turn on for women. And if your girl is way turned on, you’ll be totally into it&give her an orgasm that will make her scream and you’ll see. Try Stormy’s Strobing Massager Vibrator. Maybe you’d like to have some fun alone&the Cyber Snatch can help you with that. It is made of a jelly-like substance and it vibrates. Feel free to imagine you’re having sex with your fave porn star.
• You can try bringing another woman into the bedroom, if she’s cool with that. Check out the tips I given men and women on 3-ways in the Dear Betty archive.
• Watch porn. How can you not be in the mood after seeing hot women get it on?! Check out Adam & Eve’s Eden &go on a mini tropical vacation with Carmen Luvana , Ava Rose and their friends. If your girl likes a storyline, put Wicked’s Black Widow in your queue. And for a few hot girls having a good time, watch Red Light District’s Fuck It Like It’s Hot.
• Buy your girl some lingerie&check out our selection in the toy section of our site. Seeing her in a babydoll with a g-string will remind you why you found her hot.

If none of these things work, try talking and/or going to get some counseling together. But, I have a feeling once you relax and expand your sexual horizons together, you’ll be just fine.

I hope this helps!Love,
Betty

Sometimes you will have sex with girls who can’t make you cum. It could be you’re just not turned on by your girlfriend. But ask yourself these questions. Can your girlfriend fuck for long periods of time? Or does she go for a short period of time and you’re just not able to climax because you’re not there? If you don’t (or can’t force yourself) cum, that could be the answer.

I do have to say that it’s an impressive skill that you can just go and go like the Energizer Bunny. Many men can’t accomplish that feat. Since you’re not a fan of the quickie, you need to find a woman with the same sexual level that you have. Look for a girl who likes to go all night and/or have multiple rounds of sex (with breaks in between, of course).

If you’re going to have one-night stands you need to tell women that’s all there is&unless you’re looking for a fuck buddy/friend with benefits. If they keep coming back for more it might be your prowess or the fact that you’re concerned with them getting off too (which is a good thing). Also, I have to agree with you that sleeping with co-workers is never a good idea&there’s always the gossip and awkwardness, if things go badly.

As for having sex with 2 chicks at once…this can be a good idea. Taking turns will allow you to go for extended periods of time and get there. Keep in mind threesomes can be tricky&they’re about more than just fucking. If you and your girl decide to bring another woman into the bedroom, you will need to lay down some ground rules. Also, be sure to give your girlfriend lots of attention so she won’t feel neglected.

To understand threesome etiquette, I would suggest you check out Adam & Eve’s Nina Hartley’s Guide to Threesomes; Two Girls & a Guy. This flick has professional porn stars Nicole Sheridan and Mika Tan (not just some cheesy 70s actors) and will make a good time better. Additionally, check out Access Instructional Media’s My Three Way with Kelly Welles and Nicky Hunter to help make your fantasy a reality. You’ll also want to get some sex toys so when one girl isn’t servicing you, she can be pleasuring herself and staying wet. I suggest Nikki Tyler’s Pleasure Vibe, the Little Lavender Clit Cuddler, or the Temptress Tiger .

Good luck!

Love, Betty

I don’t run a dating service. But, I would suggest you try bars around colleges. If you’d like some tips on porn with smoking hot BBWs 18 to 20, I can help you with that.

Too many BBW movies feature women who aren’t the 2 nd ‘B’, but I can suggest a handful that do. Evil Angel’s Phatty Girls #8 features some young, hot Black girls including Red, Diana and Flame. If you like cute, chubby Latin girls who look like they’re from around the way, check out Totally Tasteless’ Chubby Chicas #7 with Kasia and Karla Lane. For a flick with busty, young BBWs, check out Big Top’s Boobville’s Young and Plump&these girls are fresh, college girls including the stunning Devvyn Devine .

And if you’d like to see more titles that may titillate you, browse under the BBW genre.

Happy viewing!

Love, Betty

I’m not entirely sure why you are asking this question. Are you planning a career in porn?

According to Dear Betty’s doctor, 80 percent of the sexually active female population in their 20s and 30s has HPV (Human Pap Loma Virus). So, the same is probably true with porn stars. It usually clears after awhile and rarely becomes full-blown cervical cancer.

Many porn stars get tested for STDs at AIM Healthcare Foundation, which was started by former porn star Sharon Mitchell (who has admitted to having Herpes herself). According to Ms. Mitchell, about 66 percent of porn stars have Herpes. It is a requirement that porn stars provide proof that they have been tested for HIV and other diseases (and they are clean) on the set before they even begin filming. This has become more and more important since condoms are rarely used in movies (although you do see one every now and again). Being a porn star is like being a fireman&there are risks and you have to decide if it’s worth it. Chlamydia and gonorrhea are common and they are easily treated so porn stars can return to the set within a few weeks, usually.

If you’re not living the life of a porn star, be sure to have safe sex unless you and your partner have been tested for STDs. Our site has lots of condoms and lube to help you with that including Contempo Barebacks Condoms that are very thin, yet sensitive, and feel almost like you’re wearing nothing. Flavored condoms like Trustex Vanilla-Flavored Condoms can help you mix things up&they also come in banana, strawberry and chocolate. As for lube… Slippery Kitty Lube is my favorite&it’s water-based so it won’t stain your sheets and/or feel too sticky. If you like your lube old school, pick up some Astroglide.

Hope this answers your question!

Love, Betty

Sometimes no matter the skill level, you can’t make a man cum. He could be worried about his job or have his mind on something that delays his gratification. It happens to the best of us (not Dear Betty, of course). But if this type of situation happens to you frequently, you may need to go to BJ School to rethink your technique.

I would suggest putting 2 movies in your queue&Instructional Media’s The Fine Art of Fellatio and How to Give a World Class Blowjob. The women in these movies are experts (and porn stars) so they know how to please a man orally. Your man will thank you. Literally. Additionally, rent a few flicks and watch your favorite porn stars’ moves. In Northstar’s Assocates’ Deep Throat This #35, Amy Ried, Chelsie Rae, Sammy Cruz and Isabella give Peter North and his boys amazing BJs that lead to insane facials. Combat Zone’s Destination Tonsils features Savannah Stern, Bree Olsen, Alexa Von Tess, and Nicky Nievez really going for it&they give award winning performances. And lastly, check out Madness Pictures‘ Cum Hungry Cocksuckers #6&starring Aaliyah Jolie, Britney Stevens, Amber Peach and Lyla Lei, this flick is all about the BJ.

And the last bit of homework I will give you is to practice, practice, practice. Buy a glass dildo or a realistic rubber one and bone up on your skills. Before you go for the real thing, practice on a inch ultra skin cock&it’s ultra realistic and you might forget it’s just a dildo. Glass dildos are also good&try the Glass Erotic Torpedo Glass Dildo&it’s multi-colored and you can use it for your own amusement later.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Love, Betty

Yeah, men as slaves are hot. And very nice that you have a husband who let you have your way with him like that. Most bondage flicks are about women being dominated by men, but I was able to find a few that aren’t.

First off, I would suggest Nina Hartley’s Guide to Sensual Domination #1. This movie is not only educational, but titillating. Many men are afraid of being dominated, but this flick not only addresses this stigma but squashes it. Nina Hartley and Chris Cannon explore safe words, flogging and worship. The scenes aren’t too rough and there’s a definite chemistry between the two. Scene 2 with Amber Michaels and Frank Fortuna does a great job of blending sensuousness and domination.

Bizarre’s Making of a Mistress features 3 scenes of women dominating men&the 4th scene is two chicks. Storyline revolves around Tiffany Mynx coming to Mistress Midori to become a Dominatrix. The guys in this movie are subjected to flogging, electric shock, along with clothespins and mousetraps attached to their balls as devices of pain. Well done and everyone looks like they are enjoying themselves.

Demolition Video’s Pantyhose Bondage is about Slave Randy’s devotion to Mistress Camille. Pantyhose and foot worship, along with flogging, electrical torture and the art of being bound are featured here.

And if you want to make your own bondage movies at home, I would suggest a few sex toys that are must-haves. The 13 Pleasure Latex Whip will definitely make your husband squeal with delight. Of course, he’ll need a little pleasure to go with that&pick up the Whipper Tickler to cool him off. And if you want to go full-tilt, you might want to restraint him to the bed. Sportscuffs in black are comfortable, yet heavy duty.

Good luck, Dominatrix Lady L.

Love, Betty

ATM is an abbreviation for Ass to Mouth. Wikipedia defines the acronym as “a colloquial term for the removal of the penis from the passive partner’s anus followed by the immediate insertion of the penis into the passive partner’s or another partner’s mouth.” Your question isn’t stupid&lots of people think it’s just an abbreviation for a cash machine. But, now you’re in the know.

If you’d like to check out some porn flicks featuring ATM, I can suggest a few. Acid Rain has a trilogy of movies called ATM City. ATM City #1, the original, stars the lovely (yet depraved) Mika Tan, Victoria Sin, Nicki Hunter and Melissa Lauren. ATM City #2 is a wild ride with some wild babes including Audrey Hollander, Missy Monroe, Tory Lane and Veronica Jett. And to complete the trilogy, check out ATM City #3 starring blonde bombshells Tatianna Stone and Brooke Haven, along with nasty girl Naomi.

And lastly, you might want to add Platinum X’s ATM POV to your queue. Starring hottie Hungarians, Trinity, Caroline De Jaie and Maria Bellucci, this movie might make you want to try a little ATM during your sexy time.

Enjoy,

Love, Betty

Men throughout the ages have had problems with women swallowing. Most women will swallow or they won’t. Some women go as far as to say that if a man can swallow his own cum, then they’ll do it. Many men are skeeved by this, so they just accept that their babe won’t swallow.

Yes, there are products that you can buy that will enhance the taste of your cum. In the toy section of our website, we have Lexa Oral Blast Mint Gel. This 4 oz. tube of menthol-flavored mint gel loosens and numbs your chick’s throat so she can give you a world-class BJ. And since you can’t make your cum taste like candy, you might want to get some Sweetened Blow. This watermelon-flavored gel tastes so yummy that she will beg you to cum in her mouth. And banana-flavored Peter Licker will make her go ape. It also doubles as a lubricant.

Additionally, I would suggest making changes in your diet to make your man juice taste better:

• Try cutting out milk and/or dairy products along with cauliflower, broccoli, and asparagus.
• Garlic and onions can produce strong odors&a lot of what we taste is based on the smell. Well, you get the idea.
• Are you a smoker? Do you drink a lot? Cutting out cigarettes and lowering your alcohol consumption can help.
• I have heard guys swear by pineapple. They say it makes their cum taste sweeter.
• Have your girl suck on Altoids. The minty-fresh flavor will already be in her mouth and may overtake the cum taste. Having her brush her teeth may also have the same effect.

Good luck!Love, Betty

Sometimes, I like a little flash in my porn, as well. As for pirates, there is that award-winning, big budget swash buckling adventure on the high seas (and dry land), Pirates from Digital Playground. And your favorite porn stars dress in pirate regalia including Jesse Jane, Tommy Gunn, Evan Stone, Devon, Teagan Presley, Janine and Carmen Luvana. VCA’s High Desert Pirates is another one you might want in your queue&it stars Avy Scott, Taylor Rain, Jynx and other wenches who will leave you wet.

Most princesses aren’t actually royalty although they hold titles like Anal Princess, Mafia Princess, Daddy’s Little Princess or Latin Princess. I did find one movie where the princess actually dresses the part. In Wicked’s Space Nuts, Princess Hubba Hubba (played by Stormy Daniels) and her friends dress like Star Wars characters. This plot-driven romp features Katie Morgan, Kaylani Lei, Devinn Lane, and Jessica Drake.

And for your last wish of girls in harems, check out Wicked’s Arabian Nights for some genie action. Watch the caravan of Porsche Lynn, Sierra, Christina Dior and Jenna Wells having sex in the desert. And for more sultans and their harems, watch VCA’s 1001 Erotic Nights. This lavish tale features lust, virgins and orgies. Stars Lisa De Leeuw, Mai Lin and Annette Haven.

Hope this helps!

Love, Betty

I can understand why you’re heading up the Gwen fan club. She is quite the little vixen. Pink Visual movies like Virgin Teen Lesbians usually feature amateur, relatively unknown starlettes&this is great because you’re not seeing the same girls over and over again. I was able to find one other movie that Gwen was in. She is also in Pink Visual’s Her First Big Cock #6. In this flick, Gwen and her buddies take on a whole new adventure.

Happy viewing!

Love, Betty

Very interesting question. Despite perception and myth, women really do enjoy porn and are beginning to rival men in their viewing habits. Club Magazine recently did a survey in the U.K. and found that about 5 million women watch porn with their men. Porn can spice up a relationship or give a lonely woman some pleasure to go with the many sex toys under her bed.

What kind of porn do women enjoy? Sure there’s porn specifically made for women like Playgirl’s Longing for Him or Stripped, but many women aren’t really into that. Many people believe that women like their porn plot-driven, but more women these days are going for the wham bam thank you ma’am porn like gonzo. Titles like Naughty America’s Seduced By a Cougar or Baby Doll Pictures‘ Nurse Nasty are very popular with women.

And women who were former porn starlettes are making porn&these movies may not be geared specifically at women, but women are definitely watching them. Diana Devoe directs movies under the Candy Shop label including Booty Quake #2 and Chocolate Ass Candy #3. Dana Vespoli directed Mach 2’s Filth & Fury and Digital Sin’s Dirty Little Stories and Cock Starved. Tristan Taormino has hung up her lingerie to direct movies such as Vivid’s Chemistry and Chemistry 2, along with Adam & Eve’s House of Ass. And former porn heavy Danni Ashe, has her own studio called Danni’s that specializes in all-girl flicks such as Danni’s House of MILFS, Toys & Strap Ons and Masturbation. She even directed the Boobs of Hazzard.

I can tell you that women like to watch porn where the women in the movie are receiving pleasure and are not bored. Why? Because, they see themselves on the screen. Many women really enjoy girl-on-girl flicks like Evil Angel’s Belladonna’s Fucking Girls #4, Ninn Worx’s Soloerotica #9 or CinemaPlay’s Girls Hunting Girls #11.

Personally, I like a fashionable, plot-driven flick occasionally like VCA’s Atomic Vixens or Vivid’s Reign of Tera 2, but I also enjoy a gonzo flick when I just want to get my rocks off. I’m not a fan of an all-girl movie, but I like to have a scene or 2 in the mix of my boy-girl flick. Jules Jordan is one of my personal favorites and I really enjoyed Flesh Hunter #9, Breast Worship and Tunnel Vision #2. But when it comes down to it, it’s just what each woman personally likes.

I hope this helps!

Love, Betty

I’m not sure where you live, but I can tell you that I saw lots of stars at the 2006 Erotica Convention in Los Angeles. I personally saw Tommy Gunn, Brian Pumper, Erik Everhard, Justin Sterling, Spyder Jones, and Mr. Marcus. And most of these guys dropped by the WantedList booth. Yes, I am a lucky girl. If you place your vote for the F.A.M.E. Awards, you can win a trip to the F.A.M.E. Awards and Erotica Convention. And just maybe, Mr. Slayer will make an appearance.

Outside of conventions and award shows, it’s hard to track down your favorite porn stars. Some people use a site called TheFloatingWorld.com that lists events where you could possibly meet your favorite porn stars. Or, you could write to Justin Slayer at the evil empire of Evil Angel, the studio that releases his movies. Anything is possible and maybe they’ll forward the letter to him and your dreams will become reality.

Until the big day when you get to meet your Porn God, you can check out some of his flicks. I personally recommend Phatty Girls #8, Unleashed vs. Freshly Slayed and Big Titty White Girls. And, the guy even has his own sex toys. Check the WantedList toy section, because we might have some of his toys in the very near future.

Good luck!

Love, Betty

I can help you with that. Group sex scenes are always better with more people in them. There’s so much to watch and take in that you can even feel over-stimulated (if that’s possible). Evil Angel’s Fashionistas Saffado: The Challenge has 2 wild orgy scenes with multiple players including Eric Everhard, Flower, Marie Luv, Sasha Grey, Rocco Siffredi, Jenna Haze, Jean Valjean, Sandra Romain and Adrianna Nicole. The first scene on disc one just wets your appetite. The 2nd scene on Disc 2 takes you back to the party with such antics as double penetration, mouth fucking, partner swapping and tons of action in general. This scene may go down as one of the best orgy scenes ever. It was definitely my favorite part of the flick.

The last scene of this year’s blockbuster, Corruption, also has a great orgy scene. Players include Arianna Jolie, Annie Cruz, new cummer Jerry, Kylie Ireland, Lexi Bardot and Tyler Knight. This scene has everything including girl-on-girl, squirting, interracial, cum swapping, anal play and 2 girls taking on one guy. There’s not as much chemistry going as in the Fashionistas, but this scene definitely comes through with a bang (and more than a few pops).

And while we’re on big budget flicks, you’ll definitely want to see Sin City’s Sodom. This is the 1st in a series of 3 movies, but this one features an orgy scene with 9 of the hottest stars in the biz including Cindy Crawford, Christie Lee and Sandra Romain. This orgy starts out with 4 girls and lots of oil before the 4 guys are even introduced. Sandra Romain definitely steals this scene taking on multiple cocks like a pro. You’ll probably enjoy the rest of the movie, too&all the scenes have at least 3, if not 4 stars in each scene. And, blonde sex goddess Hannah Harper is in the last scene.

Wicked’s Wicked Sex Party #2 is just one long orgy scene&it’s just a big pajama party with no script, but lots of hot sex. Check out Asia Carrera, Jill Kelly, Randy Spears, Evan Stone, Tabitha Stevens and a cavalcade of porn stars getting down and dirty. If you like this one, you’ll also want to check out Wicked Sex Party #1 and Wicked Sex Party #3.

And if all-girl orgies send you, check out Vivid’s Xtreme Janine: The 12 Girl Orgy featuring 2 scenes with 7 girls. Yes, you read that right. This flick stars Alexandra Silk, Janine, Liza Harper, Stephanie Swift and Angelica Sin. You’ll see some light bondage, toy play, and of course, some great sex.

Happy viewing!

Love, Betty